Prioritise your relationship In a long-term relationship, what you may have lost in terms of excitement and novelty, you hopefully will have gained in security and comfort. Moyle advises working out what it is that you would like live be different. It means connecting and sometimes disconnecting, falll always discussing your feelings without blame, assumption and insults so that you never go to bed angry. In the end, the effort is in the decisions you make.
The second time I fell in love was quite the opposite experience. But your lives were different then.
We all fall in love sometimes
I was cautious, skeptical and built an emotional fortress for protection. You remember who they actually are, you speak to them with respect and love. When the feelings subside, we must work twice as hard to maintain and deepen the relationships.
These feelings propel us to make some of the most irrational decisions or perform unexpected, romantic tasks, like staying up all night, talking on the phone despite having midterms or an important client meeting the next day, making breakfast just because or driving miles to spend a day with him or her. But eventually, it all came crumbling down, brick by brick, until I was back in that familiar place.
However, we often fail to realize that it never lasts. I want to stay right here, forever. Talking while on a walk or in the car can be easier for some couples.
It means knowing that your partner will make mistakes, but always speaking before reacting so that the two of you can learn and grow from the experience. We are often blinded by the illusion that everything good is infinite and invincible. But is it unrealistic to expect to be lve love with the same person for decades?
Once you come down and reality sinks, it gets a little tricky. What goes up, must come down and sometimes, the high lasts for a couple of months and sometimes, it can last for a couple of years. Could you do the food shop this week?
We need you!
Choosing love is choosing selflessness and taking a much higher flal — a task that is not easily done, as we are all inherently in it for ourselves. But also being able to be clear about what your own needs are.
All that mattered was that he and I were happy and that everything felt good. Emotions, especially love, passion and happiness, are our strongest motivators because we will do anything to maintain them. You build them up.
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The emotions become less intense until they stabilize into something that is just a part of your everyday life. If you truly want to stay in love, you must always choose love — a choice built on the foundations of communication, acceptance and selflessness. A lot of times what will trigger the out-of-love feeling are the slight disappointments, the slight rejections, the slight disillusionments — those moments when you counted on them being there and somehow they were distracted, or they said something critical at a key moment when you needed support.